If you’re anything like me, then you might not be the best smooth talker or texter out there. When I first built up the courage to kick things into high gear and try out adult dating, I literally have no idea where to start.
I found myself messaging girls dick pics thinking that was the solution to getting laid.
Boy oh boy was I wrong as can be!
The good news is that I quickly fixed things and learned how to actually communicate with these women. Many of them just require you to not sound like a douchebag or not approach them in the wrong manner. If you’re using an online dating service and you are having issues starting up conversations, then this is what you need to know.
Tips For Having Conversations With Girls Online
The first thing you’ll want to know is that I’ve got facts to back up my tips. Additionally, I’m a walking success story when it comes to hooking up. One thing I quickly learned was that it’s extremely important not look like Mr.Creep or you will strike out for sure.
I’ll give you the full rundown of things to remember right here, right now!
Be Short.
Simple as it sounds, it works. If you want a reply from a hot local girl looking to have some fun, then you need to keep your messages and subject lines short. The subject line makes a world of a difference and if you’re not doing what’s necessary to spark their interest, then you’re shit out of luck. Keep the subject to 25 characters for best results.
Say HRU No More.
The plain old “How are you” doesn’t work in adult dating. It’s about as vanilla as you can get and no one sees any value in building a relationship with someone vanilla AF. That’s a surefire way to lose her.
No IM Terms.
If you can’t take the time to spell out, “you are” and you spend time writing “U R” instead, then you will find yourself losing every time. The only short copy that’s acceptable is the traditional LOL and Haha. Anything else makes you look stupid.
Be Specific.
You’ll want to be specific as possible when reaching out to her. Try and mention something about her profile that turned you on or caught your eye. They’ll appreciate that fact, trust me on that.
Ask Questions.
If you’re not asking questions, then you’re wasting your time and theirs. The whole point of meeting someone online is to form some type of commonality prior to meeting in person. The best way to do this is by asking questions. I tend to always ask questions that are fun and upbeat.
Be Honest.
If you truly want to have a great conversation that’s going to take you places, then you’ll want to be honest and upfront as possible. I spend a significant amount of time having long conversations with these women I meet online and most of those that I start with on an honest foot end up forging great relationships. Yes, even those that have a “no strings attached” type focus to them.
Now, if you decide to completely disregard everything I’ve shared here today, my guess is that you’ll end up alone. You will eventually run out of people to chat with and you won’t get laid. Just take my advice for once, please!